VARIOUS FORM OF COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE

 


- Pst. Gavin Aleogho

 

There are various forms of communication that you can maximize to enhance your relationship. Sadly, a lot of couples are only familiar with verbal forms of communication. As good as that form of communication can be, it is still limited. There are a lot of things you might not be able to tell or express to your spouse by just “talking.”

 

Thus, in this short piece, I will be sharing with you various ways you can relate and speak your heart to your spouse. This principle is not only applicable in the context of marriage. It is applicable in every form of relationship.

 

9 FORMS OF COMMUNICATION

 

1. VERBAL COMMUNICATION

                                                                       

Verbal communication is communication with words and includes pitch and tone of voice, the word you say, and the dialect you choose to speak. In the context of marriage, it could be:

 

  • Direct conversations: talking openly about feelings, needs, and desires.
  • Discussions: problem-solving, decision-making, or planning as a couple.

 

2. NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION

 

Nonverbal communication is both intentional and unintentional communication through body language.

 

  • Body language: gestures, facial expressions, posture, personal space, and eye contact can convey feelings like affection, frustration, or empathy.
  • Touch: hugs, holding hands, kissing, romance or other forms of physical expression of love and comfort without words.

 

3. WRITTEN COMMUNICATION

 

Written communication involves writing in any format.

 

  • Letters or notes: handwritten or digital messages of encouragement, apology, or affection.
  • Texts and emails: quick ways to stay connected during the day.
  • Social media: chatting with your spouse.

 

4. EMOTIONAL AND AFFECTIONATE COMMUNICATION

 

Emotional and affectionate communication is a deeper form of communication that could be verbal or nonverbal. It is aimed at touching the emotions of your spouse. It involves:

 

  • Sharing feelings: Expressing joy, sadness, anger, or excitement, fostering emotional intimacy.
  • Empathy: Actively listening and responding to the emotional state of your spouse.
  • Compliments and encouragement: Speaking positive words that uplift and affirm your partner.
  • Acts of service: Small gestures like doing chores, preparing meals, or running errands that communicate love and care.

 

5. HUMOUR AND PLAYFULNESS

 

Humour and Playfulness is a form of communicating your nature and friendliness to your spouse. It has a way of bringing joy and changing the atmosphere of your home. It involves:

 

  • Jokes and light-hearted conversations: Adding humour to communication can relieve tension and foster closeness.
  • Playful teasing: Affectionate teasing strengthens intimacy and alters the atmosphere of your home.
  • Playing games together: it could be manual or digital games.

 

6. CONFLICT COMMUNICATION

 

Conflict Communication is a form of communication that is aimed at resolving conflict, bringing clarity and understanding between couples. It could involve:

 

  • Constructive confrontation: Addressing issues calmly and respectfully in order to resolve disagreements.
  • Apologies and forgiveness: verbal and non-verbal ways of seeking forgiveness or granting forgiveness.

 

To achieve your goal with this form of communication, you must consider “the right timing;” void of distraction and interruption.  The mood of your spouse must be considered, before initiating this form of conversation.

 

7. TIME-BASED COMMUNICATION

 

There is a time for everything. Even when it comes to discussing some important matters in marriage, you must consider the right timing. This is where time-based communication comes in. It involves:

 

  • Quality time: spending intentional time together, talking or engaging in activities that build connection.
  • Scheduling discussions: Scheduling an appropriate time and place to discuss important matters.

 

8. SILENCE AS COMMUNICATION

 

Silence is another form of effective communication that is used for different purposes. It could be to a:

 

  • Comfortable silence: Being together without speaking but still feeling connected.
  • Reflective silence: Pausing to reflect on the matter on ground.
  • Displeasure silence: As a way of displaying your displeasure.

 

9. SPIRITUAL COMMUNICATION

 

Spiritual communication is one of the deepest forms of communication that leads to godly soul-tie between couples. This form of communication causes the two individuals to be bond together in their souls and spirit. This form of communication is achieved through

 

  • Praying together: Praying to God together about anything.
  • Having spiritual conversations: discussing your faith through intense Bible study in the form of family devotion.
  • Praying for your spouse: Either for God’s help or for God to help you convince your spouse about a matter. Proverbs 21:1

 

©Gavin Aleogho

 

 

 

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