THE POSSIBILITY OF SEXUAL PURITY

 


Written by Gavin Aleogho

 

“No man fit kip himself oh. Bodi no bi firewood.” said Rume to his colleague as the chat during a break period at work. “No let anybodi deceive you. It is not possible for anybody to keep himself. Even Pastors, Imams, Reverend Fathers and even Reverend Sisters dey do.”

 

While Rume was expressing his view in Nigerian Pidgin English, three of his colleagues, Frank, Bright and Owen were nodding in agreement to what he was saying. But Gabriel was frowning in disagreement.

 

Gabriel could not take it anymore; he interrupted Rume, “the fact that you have chains of girlfriends does not mean that other men are like you. The fact that you can’t keep yourself with just your wife does not mean that there are people who are not keeping themselves from sexual immorality.”

 

Pointing to the other three, Gabriel said, “don’t let Rume deceive you guys. You can keep yourself if you want to. Owen, you can be faithful to your spouse if you are determined.” Besides Owen who got married three months ago, Frank and Bright were bachelors.

 

“But men, the temptation is much oh,” said Frank. “Just this morning alone, more than three girls have given me a green light that they are available for me. I no go lie to you.”

 

“You guys know Mercy, right?”  Bright interrupted. “That girl that usually comes to pick our product every Tuesday morning.” “Yes, yes,” they others nodded in unison. “She has been on my neck. I have disappointed her twice now. She has always wanted to take me out. But I have not been able to keep the appointment with her. You know that after work I always have Church evening services?”

 

“Church boy,” exclaimed Rume. “You can’t tell me that there are no girls that are chasing you even in your Church?”

 

“Sure, sure there are.” Replied Bright. “Sincerely speaking, it is not easy. All this temptation usually pollutes my mind”

 

We can’t deny the fact that sexual temptation is on the increase and this will keep increasing as the days go by. Diverse sexual perversion which was not too pronounced in the past has now been made an acceptable norm in some communities.

 

We are all sexual beings with feelings and emotions. This is how God has made every one of us. This feeling and emotion is what the devil targets at appealing when he brings sexual temptation to us. We must brace up and put our feelings and emotions under control so as to remain sexually pure.

 

Sexual purity is something that is demanded by God from all His children. It is a possibility that we can all attain through knowledge, determination and the grace of God. For God will never ask you to do something which He has not already graced you to do  Besides, always know that God will never ask you to do what He thinks you can’t do.

 

Whether you are a single, married, adult, kid or a teenager you are expected by God to keep yourself from sexual immorality. Sexual purity is not for specific gender, but for both male and female. Your marital status does not exclude you from the pursuit of Sexual Purity.

 

"God’s will is for you to be set apart for him in holiness and that you keep yourselves unpolluted from sexual defilement. Yes, each of you must guard your sexual purity with holiness and dignity, not yielding to lustful passions like those who don’t know God."

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 TPT

 

Thus, if you are married, you are expected to stick to your spouse alone. If you are unmarried, you are expected to keep yourself from fornication. You are not expected to indulge in any form of sexual perversion like masturbation, homosexual, etc.

 

Sexual Purity includes virginity for the unmarried, but it's more about a PURE HEART than being a virgin, physically. Hence, the primary basis of attaining sexual purity starts from the heart. If the heart is defiled, sexual purity has been compromised. If the heart is pure, the man or woman will always act rightly.

 

In dealing with the issue of the state of the heart, Jesus said that, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” Matthews 5:28. Thus, we can safely conclude that to attain sexual purity, we must first of all deal with the state of our heart, ensuring that our heart is not defiled by either what we see, smell, ear or feel. For sexual Purity is not what is ascertained from the outside by people, rather, it is what God sees and this is based on the condition of our hearts.

 

This is why the scripture says, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23.

 

Hence, one of the first steps towards sexual purity is to keep yourself from sexual pollution. If you are serious about sexual purity, you must get rid of anybody that often pollutes your heart by their acts or words.

 

You must also get rid of any material like books, magazines, music, videos that tend to tilt your mind towards sexual immorality. Also, you must censor your social media of friends, pages or groups that promote sexual perversion of any kind. You must consciously create your own environment, both offline and online.

 

This is something you must do intentionally if you are serious about the matter of sexual purity.

 

To be continued... Watch out for “STEPS ON HOW TO ATTAIN STEXUAL PURITY.”


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