TOLERANCE IN MARRIAGE



Written by Gavin Aleogho
 
In our first year in marriage, I discovered that I lack a vital virtue needed for the success of marriage. This virtue is called tolerance. Before I got married, I never knew how deficient I was in this kingdom virtue. Marriage uncovered my deficiency in this area. I remember taking out time (days) to pray and ask the Lord to help me in this regard. Hallelujah! God indeed answered my prayer.
 
Tolerance is very essential in marriage due to differences in personalities, backgrounds, values, and expectations between spouses. It does not matter how long your courtship was or how much you thought you knew your fiancé/fiancée; marriage will uncover another dimension of the person to you. And if you lack tolerance, you will experience constant conflicts in your marriage.
 
Hence, the scripture says, "With all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love."
Ephesians 4:2 (NASB).


Tolerance will help couples to successfully navigate their differences, even as they head towards building trust, mutual respect and understanding in their marriage.
 
Benefits of Tolerance in Marriage
 
The benefits of tolerance in marriage are enormous, but here are a few:
 
1. Tolerance will strengthen the emotional bond between couples
2. Tolerance will reduce conflict by minimizing unnecessary arguments
3. Tolerance will lead to harmony and teamwork in the marriage
4. Tolerance will increase understanding among couples
5. Tolerance gives room for personal and collective growth within the relationship.
6. Tolerance will create an atmosphere of peace and joy in the home.
7. Tolerance will create an environment for spiritual growth for the individuals in the union.
 
Effects of Lack of Tolerance in Marriage
 
When tolerance is lacking in a marriage:
 
1. There will be constant disagreements and unresolved issues among couples.
2. There will be a break in communication and emotional disconnection between couples.
3. It will lead to unforgiveness, which will invariably lead to bitterness, resentment against each other.
4. There will be tension in the home that will invariably affect the children negatively.
5. It will hamper the spiritual growth of the individual in the marriage.
 
Intolerance has the capacity to cause a major crack in the wall of the marriage which if it’s not resolved immediately can have lasting negative impact on the marriage.
 
©GavinAleogho
 


1 comment:

  1. wow i have learned something new sir God bless you

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